From Lori and Andreea

Center Circle offers women an opportunity to experience a variety of ways to interact with others and ourselves; to get to know ourselves better and continually transform to the newest version of ourselves. Every new day brings an opportunity to change. This circle is a place for you to feel safe to be and discover who you are.

Bring whatever is going on for you or leave it at the doorstep, either way. Practice whatever you want to learn in a safe environment until it feels like a part of you and emerges into every part of your life. Bring the questions you have about anything. Talk about what's important for you right now and what you've always dreamed of doing. Open to new experiences, and in the meantime perhaps discover a new aspect of your self. Relate to your life in fresh and unpredictable ways. Make new friends, create bonds, find common ground. Practice co-creating community. Have a place to go to continue to become the best YOU, you can be.

Get time away from all those other things in life. Think of it as your sacred space. "Your" time. Learn that whatever feels right IS right. Simply feel yourself loving and being loved in your authenticity.

Lori and Andreea

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Chakradance with Gail Johnson

May 1st Meeting:  Guest Facilitator

Chakradance is a totally new form of dance workshop for people who have an interest in healing, dance, chakras, energy and growth. The focus is on personal experience rather than performance. Guided by music resonating to each of the seven major chakras, Chakradance participants are taken on a dynamic dance journey through their own energy centers.

There is no right way to Chakradance as everyone has their own rhythm and movement. By surrendering to the music and dancing from the inside out, we are able to free our natural energy flows and feel more fully alive. On a deeper level Chakradance is about healing and balance. No dance experience or prior knowledge of chakras is necessary. All are welcome!

Fore more information contact:
Gail Johnson, Certified Chakradance facilitator 805-405-6107

Or visit the Chakradance website

Center Circle is a Women's Circle in Thousand Oaks.  We meet twice monthly, participating in inspiring dialog about things that matter to us, and exploring experiences together that allow us to expand with the goal of knowing ourselves and each other more deeply.  The experience being created this Sunday is one of many unique experiences that will be offered in our circle space.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Live and Learn

"Live as if you'll die tomorrow.
Learn as if you were to live forever." 
                        - Gandhi

How many of us have seen or heard this quote before?  It’s so easy to read a quote and nod our heads and say to ourselves, “yes, I agree with that!  That’s how I want to be!”

And then we continue our lives in the existing patterns and behaviors.  Fear is one reason we don’t take the first step toward living with courage and taking risks.  Overcoming fear is easier if we are surrounded by loving supporters who encourage us and/or distract us from the fear while we are in the act of breaking a pattern (acting, behaving, being, speaking, etc. differently).

Learning does not become a part of us until we imbed the new knowledge at the cellular level, which means a combination of multi-sensory experiences and repetition (creating a pattern).  That’s just part of the physics of how our bodies operate.  Knowing how the system works gives us the opportunity to change the system!   Knowing this about learning, we can seek out experiences that provide the opportunity for integrating new knowledge.

The circle participants voiced very strongly this past Sunday that when we bring in guest presenters “we want an interactive experience, not a lecture!”  It wasn’t because we had told them “you know you’ll learn better if we have an interactive experience vs. a one way communication stream of information coming at you.”  It was simply because we all know this.

Here’s a well done video making a similar point about learning, in observation of our current education system.   Although this blog post is not intended to head off toward “let’s change this country’s education system!” we still wanted to share this as further exposure to the topic of learning.



So, here it is again:
"Live as if you'll die tomorrow.
Learn as if you were to live forever." 

Our dear friends Joel and Michelle Levey offered these words following this quote in their thought for the day email today:
“Experiment with taking this quote to heart this week.
Remember, life is precious, and... we are all dancing on the edge.
Imagine the possibility of learning as literally never ending.
Look for opportunities to enrich your life and the lives of others in these ways.”

Give yourself the gift of the opportunity to risk in a safe environment and learn new ways of being.  Come to our circle and be supported in this process called life.

Monday, April 18, 2011

Being Authentic

In last night’s circle, we expressed that we want a place to be with other women where we can relax and be authentic.  Listening to the requests of several women voicing the desire to feel safe in this circle, to be ourselves, for good or bad, one of us finally, tentatively added: “I think the only place I’m authentic is when I’m alone in my apartment.”  Such a powerful awareness of what we want and don’t want and what’s really going on in our lives is why we are coming together as a group of women, and sharing in each other’s presence.

The verb "to be" is an interesting thing.  I “be” this way or that way, like this or like that, depending on all that’s going on in the moment, the circumstances, surroundings, or who’s watching.  I sensor my behavior (my demonstration of “being”) when I think people are watching, trying to create a projection equal to what I want their perception to be.

Yikes.

 I am reminded of those moments in life when I have witnessed women being authentic.  When I look at them and can see that they are in that moment, truly connected to who they are inside and out, and they are demonstrating that connection right in front of me and all the world.  To see it, is inspiring!  I look for it.  When I find it, it’s like the golden ticket of admission and permission into the world of being authentic.  "She’s being authentic. I will be, too."
 
Most of the material on the internet about being authentic is either persuasive (you should be authentic) in nature, or esoteric (wouldn’t the world be a better place if we achieved this authenticity, either in an individual way or in a larger way).

The number one reason each of us wants this women’s circle is so that we can practice being authentic in a safe, nonjudgmental environment that honors each person's unique expression and natural unfolding.


Peter Vajda, PhD., wrote in his 2007 article titled Why Being Authentic is So Difficult:

“Why do we find ourselves struggling so often to be who we really are? Why is it so challenging to show up authentically? Why do we wear masks, and assume personalities of actors that hide our True and Real Self? What brings us to be fake and phony so much of the time?


The kicker is that everyone is born authentic. What happens is that, beginning with childhood and moving through adolescence and into adulthood, we spend countless minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and years separating from our innate, authentic, natural and spontaneous self. And, along the road, we become confused. “Who am I, really?” becomes the operative question.”



Center Circle is a women’s circle in Thousand Oaks, California (near Westlake Village, Newbury Park, Camarillo, West Hills, Agoura, Oak Park, Moorpark, Simi Valley, San Fernando Valley).  We are a gathering of women who prefer being authentic.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Seven Stage Dynamic of the Creative Process

We were talking in circle last time about how we often get stuck.  We want to create something in our lives, and we have a very clear idea of what it is, and yet, we notice we keep doing what we have been doing and keep getting what we have been getting.  When we notice that, we feel stuck.

As we talked about this and the idea of how to get ‘unstuck’, I shared Norman Seeff’s Seven Stage Dynamic of the Creative Process.  Norman, after studying the creative process in numerous disciplines, including artists, rock stars, actors, engineers, designers and rocket scientists, he observed that in the creative process we always have to go through seven stages, no matter what we are creating.  By making these stages visible, we have a model to look at and talk about and identify where we are stuck. 

In our circle discussion, we did go into detail on ideas for beginning the transition out of that rut.  It’s usually mental and emotional stuff where we get stuck, and we talked about various tools for moving our thoughts and our emotions away from the patterns we have set, and toward the patterns we prefer.

Since I use Norman’s model a lot, I wanted to post it here so we would all be able to find it again easily for reference.
Norman Seeff's Seven Stage Dynamic of the Creative Process